It's All About Healthy Relationships

Relationship is what "works."  Here's the rub.  Relationship scares your attachment challenged child to the core. An undercurrent running 24/7 in the background of your child's psyche is a terror that YOU will one day hurt him, starve him, abandon him, emotionally abuse him.  She doesn't even know it is there.

YOU are creating a trust-based relationship with a child that may never have been able to trust an adult 100%.  How long does it take YOU to gain 100% trust in relationships, friendships, partnerships? 

If you had a secure childhood, you may find it easy to trust.  Many of us, however, did not leave childhood unscathed by the slings and arrows of "spare the rod spoil the child" parenting or personal deficits in our parents.  Trust, then, doesn't come that easily in relationships.

What is your child's early history?   The degree to which she was harmed will be the degree to which she is silently terrorized on the inside.  The length of time to establish a trusting relationship that "works" to influence negative and positive behavior is directly correlated, too.Know More Here About sacramento marriage counseling.